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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Interesting.  This is a great thing to talk about with a therapist.

I am the opposite and cannot stand people feeling sorry for me and I think it's the way I was raised and I've talked to a therapist about it. I have tended to feel like I always need to be my best self, no one cares, don't show or tell people your real vulnerabilities, make it seem like everything is great, etc.  I think this probably goes better in terms of people wanting to be around you than being a complainer, but it can keep people at a distance too, which is not a good thing.  Therapy really helped me change.[/quote]

I desperately wish I was like you. I have a coworker who was the same way and though I always thought it was weird she gave a positive spin to everything, I have to admit I thought she was very self assured and had a strong personality.[/quote]

I am like this as well. I HATE pity, even when I deserve it (I have experienced tragedy).

OP, look into the drama triangle https://lindagraham-mft.net/triangle-victim-rescuer-persecutor-get/. I'd guess you had a parent who was a persecutor type and you learned to use the victim role to placate them and get what you wanted. I am a "rescuer" so try to save people, even to my own demise, to ensure that they like and need me. All equally dysfunctional! We all play all of these three roles at times. I'd encourage you to look into it, it has been fascinating work that is making me aware of my own relational patterns, and helps me get off of the triangle! Good luck. [/quote]

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