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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just have a normal conversation with him!  Most normal conversations i have with people I don't see very often involve asking them what they are up to and what is going on with their lives.  Then see how he answers.  If he does not bring it up, I would not bring it up either.[/quote]

+1  I can't imagine seeing a college-aged nephew and not asking "how's school?"  He'll either tell you he's having a hard time and taking longer to graduate, or he switched majors or is double-majoring or something, or he studied abroad and didn't get all the required credits, or that he quietly graduated early and is building a company in his parents' basement.

If you care about the kid talk to the kid.  If you care about embarrassing his mom for being proud of her kid on Facebook in the past, I guess you'll probably find some way to do that.[/quote]

Or maybe he'll just say "it's great!" without mentioning whether he graduated?   It's entirely possible, after all, that it IS great and that he hasn't graduated yet.

Your suggestion isn't helpful.  [/quote]

I'm not trying to help you be nosy.  I'm trying to teach you how to be a person.[/quote]

Maybe.  But from the anticipated responses that you've outlined, it sounds like your advising OP how to be surreptitiously nosy about the nephew's graduation status.  Because if I were listing the possible responses to the "how's school" question, it wouldn't include a long list of possible explanations for why he didn't graduate.[/quote]

I say "if you care about the kid talk to the kid" and you take away "this is my primer for how to be surreptitiously nosy."  I can't help you.  It's possible no one can.[/quote]

I'm not the OP.

All I'm saying is that your anticipated responses assume there's some kind of explanation -- justification, really -- for why the nephew didn't graduate.  And maybe there isn't , other than that things are great and he plans on graduating in his own damned time time and that's that.  If I were asking a nephew about school, there would be no  implicit question about when he plans on graduating, why hasn't he already, etc.  I'd simply be wanting to know if he's happy and enjoying himself.    [/quote]

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