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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The principal at our highly regarded middle school blamed our daughter for similar bullying happening to her. I tried to speak out and you all blame me. [/quote]

If this is the kid at my kid's down county middle school a few years ago, she antagonized kids repeatedly and was more bully than bullied. That was not similar.

I am sorry,  school admin has responded poorly, OP.  I hope the bullying report and/or police can help.

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DP.  I just want to be clear, when the PPP says "blamed our daughter for similar bullying happening to her" -- I am reading that PPP as saying that that PPP's daughter also received threats of rape and violence.  Those kinds of threats are never OK under any circumstances.  Girls are often blamed for "provoking" or "attracting" sexual threats, which is what you seem to be suggesting when you say that you, immediate PP, think that you know who the PPP's child is and that that child "antagonized kids repeatedly and was more bully than bullied".

I say this, because it was our, DP, experience that girls in our MS, were blamed by MCPS administrators for provoking sexual assault.  I literally heard an MCPS staffer correct a parent who complained at a public meeting about sexual harassment of girls!  The MCPS administrator said in a very patronizing tone, "you parents don't understand, these girls actually want this kind of attention".

FWIW, historically, women have often been blamed for sexual assault or even prosecuted for it. So, this kind of thinking is entrenched in society.

Actual or threatened sexual harassment or assaults are never acceptable.  [/quote]

PP here. I was thinking of a non-rape, non-sexual assault incident at our DCC MS. (Not OP's incident). Though, if it's the parent I thought it was, she may conflate it. She posted here about it, and, at the time, I had kids at the school who had classes w/ the kid and had witnessed the kid's behavior, and I knew the admin well (and had known them to be pro-active and responsive to any allegations).  The person's account was wildly inaccurate. For some reason, the PPP's post just struck a chord and reminded me of that incident (maybe the "highly regarded DC MS" and "you all blame me" -- this mom was a perpetual victim).

If it was my kid's DC MS, the highly regarded admin earned that regard by taking any allegation, even verbal harassment very seriously. They would certainly not have dismissed a threat of assault. They actually did sort out a situation in which my kid was threatened off campus. Well resolved.

But, it could have been about another school/person/situation, certainly.

I am very sad to read about OP's school's admin.  I hope she is able to get support, justice and freedom from this.[/quote]

This is wildly inaccurate. But I have to ask, Takoma Park Mom, what kind of person blames a twelve-year-old girl? What kind of woman refers to another as a " perpetual victim" when she doesn't know her at all? There's some serious issues going on there and they're not ours. [/quote]

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