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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I mean, the woman has never been outside of the US, not because of $$ issues but because she simply doesn't want to. Her ideal vacation is her parents' lake house. She also doesn't work and I am still not sure what she did before kids. I, on the other hand, am a working mom, I am still active in our community and I don't get tired easily :) My ideal vacation involves a lot of movement.[/quote]

I can't even answer your question because the above statement stands out so strongly. Did you realize how condescending this sounds? I can't imagine how you are with her if this is how you talk about her with strangers. Yes them asking you to end the friendship seems a little over the top but you really need to examine your part is all of this. I have very little in common with my two SILs and we get along fine. Yes they have their quirks but I do too. You are painting yourself here as "good" and your SIL as "bad" and I can't help but wonder if that comes across in your interactions with your SIL.[b] I also wonder if your friendship with the ex-gf has created some kind of triangle that you knowingly or unknowingly exploit or flaunt, which is why there is resentment[/b]. [/quote]

Excellent point. It is unusual for a sibling to maintain, let alone nurture, a close relationship with their sibling’s ex. It shows an insensitivity to their sibling’s feelings and lack of boundaries, at best. OP’s brother has asked her to discontinue the relationship for his sake. Will she respect his feelings now or will hers take priority yet again?[/quote]

OP: my brother was aware we were friends and didn't care. He still doesn't care but apparently his wife does. Boundaries? What exactly did we do that is so awful? [b]Also, he didn't ask me to discontinue the relationship, he just said his wife was upset[/b]. [/quote]

Now you are changing your story. In your previous post you said, “He now calls me and asks if I can stop being friends with her "for his sake". “

You are not credible, OP.

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