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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How much does your DH make?  If you only have $80K in assets I'm going to assume he makes less than $100K.  Remember that alimony is no longer tax deductible for the payor or taxable income for the recipient so if my guess is right the amount of alimony probably won't be very high.[/quote]

140k and 160k with his bonus. This is net pay. [/quote]

Good luck supporting two households on that. [/quote]

OP works PT. He would need to supplement the difference. It is not the same as supporting two incomes. $1600 a month in rent is cheap. [/quote]

+1 with her PT salary and his 160k, they can afford to pay $1600 in rent. Unless she's been living a luxury lifestyle which sounds like she's not they will be fine. [/quote]

They will EACH have rent. They will EACH have household bills (cable, electric, gas, insurance, etc). We are not talking about $1600. Double that, plus double bills...then add childcare and minus that. Then minus groceries and a car payment. My guess there is zero left to save for retirement and no wiggle room for an emergency. If she is only working PT, she needs to plan now for a career that will earn money if/when spousal support runs out in a few years. Retraining takes more money and more time. These are all factors. She needs an attorney consult and then go from there. [/quote]

She doesn't need childcare since she works on the weekends. How do you know there's a car payment? You live in a bubble. People of all incomes get divorced. If OP thinks it's right, she should do it. [/quote]

Once she’s divorced she’s not going to be able to just work on weekends. [/quote]

Why not? It estimates childcare expenses—plenty of people working none traditional schedules. No rule says divorced kids must go to daycare. You have no idea how low-income people stay afloat. [/quote]

Again spell so support is temporary she will not be able to work on weekends forever she is going to feel the pain of having less money and she’s going to work more than just working on the weekends. Getting a divorce and expecting to work the exact same before when you’ve barely been working and the guy is struggling to have his house and her house or apartment or whatever is a rude awakening for a lot of people. Working on weekends part-time is not something she’s going to be able to do permanently eventually she’s going to need to actually work because she’s going to need the money.[/quote]

Why do you keep repeating this? You realize it doesn't pay for her to work, right? When her child is older, she can figure something else out. 160k gross is at least 7k a month. They aren't poor. He is the one with anger issues. I'm sure she gave him a chance to resolve that, but he refused. He can deal with supporting two households for a while. [/quote]

It might wake him up when he sees the numbers. [/quote]

No what will happen is that he will want 50-50 custody and she will get less. People suddenly don’t stop becoming abusive. [/quote]

Not with her earnings and the ages of the children. No judge will give the absent parent more custody unless he can prove there's something seriously wrong with the kid. Not all men are assholes when it comes to taking care of an ex. The alimony also improves his child's quality of life. [/quote]

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