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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is incredibly tacky.[/quote]

I agree it is incredibly tacky of OP to keep going on and on about this.  It is just a photo.[/quote]

Have you ever lost someone you love? You do not use someone else's painful day as a joyful occasion and then display it. This is elementary human relations 101, 102, 103.[/quote]

DP.  There are plenty of people on this thread who have lost loved ones (I lost 2 to suicide) and have no problem with this.  It's hard to believe you're as old as you are and you still don't understand that not everyone thinks the way you do.  I hope you can learn that someday.[/quote]

I truly think this board prides itself on contrarian takes to rile people up and make OPs feel stupid. In the real world -- not anonymous message-board-land -- such behavior just isn't done.[/quote]

But it clearly is done in the real world.  Just because you’ve never done it doesn’t mean it must not happen. [/quote]

Agreed, my father died a few years ago and we hosted the wake at our house.  I love looking at the pictures from that weekend with all of the relatives and extended family all dressed up and together.  OP I think that it is ok to be sad about your mother's death, but eventually you have to be able to move past the sadness and remember the good times that you spent with her.  I don't know if you are religious or not, but my church calls memorial services "celebrations of life" and I really like that framing.[/quote]

I truly think a lot of people are missing the point here. In-laws, ostensibly there to join a grieving daughter-in-law/sister-in-law in mourning, took the opportunity to take a smiling photo with their own mother, who was alive. OK, fine. Perhaps you do that, but you share it among yourselves.

Instead, someone blew up a photo of a painful day and presented it as a framed gift, in front of the mourner, for a completely different reason -- to celebrate the living mother.

It's insensitive. It turned a sad occasion into a photo opportunity, and then a gifting opportunity, in front of someone for whom the day held pain.

This isn't even an immediate relative of the deceased gathering her brothers and sisters or something to mark togetherness. This is, as another PP put it, C-list attendees using the occasion for their own purposes. Then gifting it. A funeral is not a backdrop for a present. This really isn't complicated.[/quote]

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