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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH and I have been together for 4 years, married for 2. MIL lives out of state and we don’t see her much. Especially with COVID restrictions the last few years. I don’t like MIL due to some things she did to me (lied) and how she interacts with DH (enmeshed).

This situation mostly works for me because I rarely have to see or interact with her. We have groups calls on holidays and text on birthdays. This works for me. MIL is coming to visit in 2 weeks and DH is pushing me to spend more time with her and develop a closer relationship. I don’t want this at all. I’ll be polite and friendly, I just don’t like her. Independent of DH, I’d never interact with her.

DH’s ex wife is very close with MIL. I don’t mind this relationship, as it has nothing to do with me or my marriage. They still get together frequently and talk weekly. I think that type of relationship is what DH envisioned for MIL and I.

How do I convey gently to DH that I’m not interested in this at all? I’ve pointed out that DH doesn’t call my parents. And that[b] I’m not that close with my parents. [/b] I think one-two weekend visits a year are enough. He wants to include her on family vacations and discuss our family issues with her. [/quote]

This is the most important part of your whole post.  You don't understand "family" because you don't act like a family with your parents.  Explain that to your husband.[/quote]

This PP nailed it.  OP also sounds very arrogant and condescending, comes across as very unpleasant in her posts.  Who exactly is controlling?  Hmm.[/quote]

I bet OP is one of those women that struggles with female relationships in general.  Although I'm sure she'll be back to say that she has tons of long term female friends.  Yep, sure.[/quote]

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