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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m our family, both parents attend games and performances when are all possible. So yes, we would all go because neither adult would want to miss.

People having more than 2 kids don’t think about this enough. [/quote]

For both parents to attend everything, you can only have one kid.   Any time there is more than one kid, there is a chance that each will have an event scheduled at the same time.[/quote]

False.  You just have to prioritize appropriately and your kids may sometimes skip one of their activities to attend an important function for a sibling.  In this case yearly concert > sports practice.  Now if two kids had recitals/concerts/playoff games at the same time that were of equal weight, then I concede that you might have to split up to handle it.  But in this case I think it sends the wrong message for the older sibling to skip the concert. [/quote]

False.   If you actually have two kids that are actively involved in things, you should realizes that this thing you "concede" to happens far more often that not.   [/quote]

I do have two kids and both are involved in activities.  For those events that we define as Really Important, everyone attends.  I think it's pretty rare for major events to be scheduled at the exact same time unless you have Duggar-numbers of kids.  [/quote]

False.[/quote]

This is kind of a ridiculous response (DP, FWIW). A band kid is literally going to have likely a single 'showcase' event of the year. Maybe two, a Christmas recital and an end of year show. The level of sport my kid would need to be at to justify skipping a single practice to attend their siblings sole yearly showcase would be like, is the NFL going to be scouting the practice?

Very very few kids become elite whatever-their-activity-is whether that is the violin or the basketball court. What is lasting (hopefully, if you work at it) is a lifelong bond with your family you show up for. You don't have to be one in a million to have a good relationship with your siblings. And sacrificing that lifelong benefit to over prioritize an extra curricular that a child is good at, heck maybe even GREAT at, is not worth it IMO. Because one practice/game is not make or break, and because if my kid goes on to be a banker instead of a professional soccer player, but we forced their siblings to live a life indentured to travel soccer and constantly putting their needs on the back burner, then we hurt all the kids for no reason. And that is the most likely outcome.[/quote]

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