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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was spanked for silly things by my mom and my grandmother (she partly raised me). I grew up hating both of them.

With my kids I usually start with lectures, then time outs, then take away something, and if all fails then I do a one spanking. I don't go from zero to spanking.

I think at home our kids know by now how the "process" goes so they don't push my buttons all the way....

It's a good way for me too to not lose it all at once. But, yes, it takes a lot of patience.

On occasions if they have a horrible tantrum they get a cold shower to cool things down too. [/quote]

Are you crazy?  You are an abuser. I’m appalled you don’t see that and talk so casually about it. You are terrible. Pray for your children, they will hate you too. [/quote]

I come from a different culture where disciplining your kids is normal. We're beyond the "spanking age", my kids are now teenagers, one going to college soon, and the only thing I do is lecture them or take away their electronics.

They are amazing kids too. Well educated and well mannered. They exceed in sports and at school on their own. Not worried here!

The idea is to discipline your kids without the "rage" mentioned by other posters...

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We know you are not worried which is a concern. You don’t need to have “rage” to be abusive. You are stupid. [/quote]

DP. I’ll never get over the hypocrisy in posts like this. You just called someone “stupid” for suggesting that corporal punishment (which has been used throughout human history and is accepted outside white MC cultures) without rage isn’t abusive. People who shut people down like that aren’t gentle kind parents. [/quote]

Np. Abusing your children is stupid. 
 You show your hypocrisy with slamming someone for criticizing at the same time you criticize. 
 If what you say is true, then you are calling yourself an unkind parent or person. 
 
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You're assuming corporal punishment automatically = abuse. That, along with saying things like "stupid" are ways of shaming the PP into agreeing with you. But the law does not recognize all corporal punishment as abuse. Many cultures and religious traditions don't either. So who are YOU to say that it does, much less call someone "stupid" or "abusive" because they disciplined their children in a manner you don't agree with? It is not hypocrisy for me to point that out because I wasn't ever claiming to be morally superior in the area of kindness. [/quote]

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7390231/

“According to the Global Initiative to End all Corporal Punishment of Children,5 there are now 59 countries which have full prohibition of corporal punishment in all settings. Japan (as mentioned above) became the 59th such country in March 2020. Twenty-seven EU countries have instituted a ban which represents a large majority of the region. Twenty-nine more countries have signified their intention to reform their laws in the same direction. Most of Europe and South and Central America have instituted a ban but there are significant gaps around the world, notably in Africa, Asia, Australia, the USA and Russia.”
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