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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, as a frontline provider who worked all through Covid, I can’t underestimate the danger to which he exposed his family.

Covid has moved fast in terms of development, vaccines, treatments, etc., but everyone should stop and remember that back in April 2020 when he claims this affair started, we knew almost nothing about Covid. People were dying left and right (often in front of us). There were no treatments, no vaccinations. This unvaccinated man was stepping out and coming back into a home with a 12 month old baby. We had nothing back then. No Paxlovid, no BAM infusions. Only oxygen and we still didn’t know not to intubate people early. We learned all this over time. But didn’t know it then. People who got sick got *sick*. It was terrifying.

The recklessness of his actions cannot be understated. I appreciate the nuance of the posters pointing out that divorce is not always the answer, but this may be one of the worst infidelity stories I’ve ever heard. Your sister will need you. Her DH is a lost cause. [/quote]

I'm a PP and this post is extremely sobering. OP, your sister is going to have to consider retroactively the level of very real risk at which he put their family at a time when Covid was too frequently a death sentence. (And don't believe the "young kids don't get it and if they do it's like a cold!" idiocy. Of course they too were at real risk, and so was your sister, their mother, the guy's wife.)

I would find it hard to shake the added layer of horror at the Covid exposure on top of the infidelity. It's as if the craving for sex made him decide the actual risk to life was worth it, if he could get that itch scratched. Maybe he or even the sister are both deniers, don't think Covid's a big deal and never have but...knowing what we all should know now, listening to this frontline health worker above, that aspect makes the affair much worse. I wonder if the DH will see it that way, though.

The fact he didn't come clean on his own (fessing up when a TV show plus a comment tilts you into tearful admission is not exactly a mature "coming clean" moment) is a red flag for the sister too.  Definitely they need marriage therapy and she needs individual therapy. Therapy does not always translate as "we're trying to stay together." It can also be useful for reaching some clarity in the movement toward divorce. I'm not saying they should divorce, just noting that therapy has a role here whether they end up together or apart. [/quote]

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