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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Jeez, people are so mean.  I read OP to be sincerely concerned for her future niece or nephew.  It’s okay to worry about a child.  And it’s okay for her to recognize that her sister’s illness is going to impact the child’s life.  It sounds like the sister’s illness is not well treated or managed.  I would suspect her husband maybe struggling along.  There’s not much you can do, OP, other than try to maintain some contacts with your sister so she does have a support network, and try to have a good relationship with your BIL.  It sounds like he will need a good support network and luckily at the moment he has one with his family.

My MIL is either bipolar or has BPD (differing diagnoses) but it really impacted my husband growing up—the fact she was married to a great, stable guy was a mitigating factor but not really an indication that she was doing great.  He just never wanted to leave her, particularly as she would threaten suicide if he tried to discuss it.  He was a glass half full kind of guy and tried to focus on her good days. [/quote]

I actually have a similar family background to the OP, right down to a sister who’s been in multiple car accidents due to recklessness, then got pregnant. So I understand having concern. But from reading what OP’s shared, it sounds less like concern and more like a continued pattern of maintaining her sister as the troubled one who’s always messing things up. A dynamic that started in their childhood and that the family doesn’t seem to want to let go of, even when the sister has moved on. OP said her sister’s had a difficult past, but about her present she’s said the sister has a good husband and caring in-laws. The worst thing she’s said about her sister at present is that she’s self-absorbed on phone calls and that her husband isn’t a lawyer or doctor. Big deal.

(My sister has been a mostly good mother to my nephew over the past decade she’s been a mom, btw. No more car accidents. When there are concerns about actual issues that exist- not hypothetical ones- I talk to her directly about them.)[/quote]

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