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[quote=Anonymous]When I opened this thread, I thought you were going to say your sister got pregnant by some rando guy and was living in a homeless shelter or in a tent and was telling everybody she and the baby were going to live in the forest with the elves.  
She’s married. She sought out appropriate mental health treatment. If you were my sister, I’d not be telling you anything, many women experience mental health issues during a pregnancy as well as after. Do you tell women who have had hospital stays before they get pregnant for say shoulder surgery that they also shouldn’t have kids because you’ll have to use your body a lot, and that shoulder joint not working right, well I just wouldn’t?

All of us have to learn to be moms, some of it is natural, some of it isn’t, and what is natural and what isn’t depends a lot on the woman and kid.

The baby may inherit mental illness, or it may not. It may sadly die prematurely from any number of things preventable and otherwise. The baby may also not live up to its full potential because he didn’t go to med school, he went to plumber school.

I can’t tell if your worry is actually jealousy, your sister has a husband and a baby on the way, and you have what exactly… the time to sit and be nasty?

I’m also not convinced your sister doesn’t have a right to be angry, I wouldn’t be too happy with my family or my husband’s family if they didn’t want me to have a full and healthy life. Again, she’s married and having a baby with her husband. She could do a lot worse.

As for how you guys remember your childhood, so what? My sister and I talk about our childhood and it’s funny what we do and don’t remember. We got talking the other day about how we used to stay up and watch Saturday Night Live and hope like hell we wouldn’t get caught. Then we’ve talked about things either she or I remember.. one of them was a major home renovation my parents did, believe it or not, I don’t remember it and I’m the older sister. How or why I don’t remember it, I don’t know, the point is I don’t. I wouldn’t like my sister too much if she blamed my brain or my physical disability (I do have one) on my inability to remember.  The renovation was done over 30 years ago and the house was sold about 20 years ago so at this point, the only thing that matters is how we treat each other.

I also wonder if your parents may have been abusive to your sister, it tends to happen with children who have physical disabilities because they tend to need a different type of care and involvement, I’d imagine the same might happen with a mental health issue.  I’ve also never heard someone say “They’re not perfect” to mean anything other then “they did a really sh**ty job, but hey, you just have to be nice because they’re not perfect”. 
Given that you and your family don’t seem to think your sister has the right to make decisions, I do have to wonder.

And, if you’re worried that you’ll have to parent this child, you won’t. The court won’t drop the kid off at your doorstep and tell you to step up. You have to actually agree to take the child if it even gets to that point. 
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