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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some responses here have been very helpful. Others are pretty judgmental and one sided.

My sister had a lot of issues growing up. I am not so worried about autism and ADHD. The bipolar is what it really worries me, she has intense mood swings, isn't necessarily on meds and has shown to have poor judgment with relationships. She has trouble taking care of herself in basic ways, and needs a lot of support. She is fortunate that her husband is very supportive. [b]I don't know if he has a learning disability, he might have slight one. He is employed in a blue collar job. His family is very close knit and is very involved in their lives.[/b] His mom is a bit of helicopter parent.

[b]My family was extremely dysfunctional for various reasons.[/b] I was not the golden child. What happened is that [b]my sister needed lots of support [/b]and so the other children to some extent were supposed to grow up fast and be perfect and not cause too much trouble.

I am not jealous she is having a child. I am worried about the child. [b]I don't know if she has what it takes to be a good parent[/b] and I worry that the child might not get what it needs from her. We don't talk once a year, we see each other once a year. We do calls in between but they are usually pretty one sided and they are all about her and her issues [b]but she doesn't think to ask about me or anything in my life. So I don't usually call her very often. I feel she might not be equipped to handle being a parent. She didn't have a good relationship especially with my dad,[/b] and I don't have a super close relationship with my parents either. [b]I am concerned that she is taking on more than she can at this time. [/b][/quote]

1) you are a terrible snob for what you say about your BIL, who you also say is super supportive and so is his family.  Are you jealous of this support your sister receives? He has a learning disability, a blue collar job and a very involved mother of his own?  JFC what is wrong with you?

2) you don’t have kids. How in the world would you ever know what it’s like or what it takes to raise kids? You have zero experience in that department. None. You don’t get a vote.

3). You don’t know how your sister is present day because you barely have any relationship is and what one you do have you claim is one sided and it makes you resentful. I can’t anything you say seriously.

Here is my advice: make sure your sister keeps her baby away from you and the rest of your highly dysfunctional family. You have nothing but negative attitudes and ill intent towards your sister. Here she is, married, in a seemingly functional and healthy marriage to a man who himself has a functional and healthy extended family who is involved and supportive. Sounds like to me this baby has a good chance at a happy life, as long as OP is far away from it. [/quote]

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