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[quote=Anonymous]What a great thread - very insightful.

When I first starting thinking about TTC, I told a friend (that recently got pregnant after IF treatment) that I [i]might [/i]want to get started around 37. That way I could go to Europe baby free, we could get a bigger house and on and on. She looked me staight in the eyes and said, "Start now. You don't know how long it's going to take." I coupled this gem of wisdom with the fact that my sister waited for the right mate and wanted to be married before TTC and was ultimately 44 when she began treatments. Unfortunately, it didn't work out for her. Four years, a depleted retirmenet account and tens of thousands of dollars later, she stopped. To this day, she still thinks that her age wasn't a factor. To her, it was the fact that she ran out of money.

I am 35 going on 36 now and wish I could shout it from the rooftops, "Don't wait!" I have 2 friends that toy with starting a family, but the circumstances in their lives aren't "perfect." It breaks my heart think that they are waiting for some magical opportune time to have children that doesn't exist. I try, gently to urge them to start now and the other imperfections will work them selves out, but they are pushing it. It took me and DH many, many months to concieve and we went thru so much stress and disappointment; I'd hate to see others go thru it. Yet I know we could've been on the IF road for years, not months. I know how lucky I am to be 24 weeks pregnant now. [/quote]

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