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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I love my second child. We were on the fence and had him when his sister was 4. He is the joy of our family. But the one thing I didn’t realize is that there are no breaks with two little kids. One kid always needs me. Two needy little kids are hard for even a trained nanny or my husband to handle, and same goes for me.The parts of me I started to reclaim after the eldest toilet trained, weaned, and began STTN (exercise class, dinners with the girls, book club, solo travel) around age 2.5/3 are gone. The logistics of two (clothes, schedules, different kids of picky eating, trading illnesses, different needs) on top of running a household, a demanding full time job, the pandemic, aging parents, and day to day responsibilities for me is overwhelming. I have a very engaged husband but it’s just too much. It’s been a liability for my career, my marriage, my body, and my health. You have to be so much more selfless and patient to be a mom to two instead of one. The demands are greater and you have less reserves and are older. It’s just very hard. In ways I didn’t expect not being a FTM. I thought I would get myself back after number 2, but I’m not even close. I feel like a stereotypical exhausted mom
Who let herself go and it’s aged me terribly. I love my kids and I can’t imagine life without them but my god, it’s insane to try to be a good parent, wife, daughter, homeowner, employee, friend, etc. I feel like I’m constantly juggling plates smashing down upon me. [/quote]

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My DC2 is a joy and I wouldn't change it now. But, even with both my kids being early elementary (past potty training/in school all day), I still feel extremely exhausted. After FT work, day-to-day kids stuff, and elderly parents, even with a fully engaged DH, I feel like I have no time for myself, my house is a wreck, and my health is pretty poor.[/quote]

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