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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So her getting a part time job isn't actually an issue, if it really does make her happy. She is also doing it smartly, by saving money on daycare when you are home. But women generally don't do this unless they are actually trying not to spend time with their spouse. I wouldn't guess an affair - it doesn't have to be that catastrophic - but I'd guess that something is actually really off in your relationship that she's trying to take as much "me time" as possible. Have you suggested that you guys just pay for daycare 2x a week (m-f), and then have the weekends together? If she's not into that, maybe you need to figure out why she's avoiding you. Because it's definitely *you* she is avoiding, not the kids. Are you guilting her for not working, or otherwise making her feel "less than" for not bringing as much money as you? Do you make her feel stressed about money in general ? Are you complaining about the shape the house is in when you get home daily? [/quote]

I am not sure your point is valid. I worked two nights a week at a small boutique after giving up a career to sah. Was not avoiding my dh. It was just nice to dress up a bit, get out of house, and be with other people. It was flexible and fun. That was all I was looking for. I bought some very nice things for our home which were heavily discounted, and made friends with two other sahm that are still friends 15 yrs later![/quote]

Yeah, but she's doing it on the weekends when he is home. She could be doing it on weeknights, like you did, or paying for a babysitter a few days a week to do it during the day. OP is okay with that.
Which is just telling - she's avoiding *something*. [/quote]

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