Reply to Spouse works odd hours

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Spouse works odd hours "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So her getting a part time job isn't actually an issue, if it really does make her happy. She is also doing it smartly, by saving money on daycare when you are home. But women generally don't do this unless they are actually trying not to spend time with their spouse. I wouldn't guess an affair - it doesn't have to be that catastrophic - but I'd guess that something is actually really off in your relationship that she's trying to take as much "me time" as possible. Have you suggested that you guys just pay for daycare 2x a week (m-f), and then have the weekends together? If she's not into that, maybe you need to figure out why she's avoiding you. Because it's definitely *you* she is avoiding, not the kids. Are you guilting her for not working, or otherwise making her feel "less than" for not bringing as much money as you? Do you make her feel stressed about money in general ? Are you complaining about the shape the house is in when you get home daily? [/quote]

Wow what a weird assessment!

I was the stay at home mom that worked weekends. Because that was the only opportunity it was really clear I could go. My husband‘s job did not allow for me to have any private time at all. It’s ridiculous that I had to work a job to justify leaving the house alone. Some guys just don’t get it. Mine did, eventually. 
Thankfully we could afford day care by the time child was three and I went back to full-time work. Being home with your child all week and then working on the weekends is exhausting, but it’s also sanity saving because you get to be someone besides “mommy”. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics