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We really need the OP to come back and clarify if this is the same person who posted the other thread that some have identified. That post dealt with some very different issues including preschool, but if this is the same OP, he is now back trying to get...support? Sympathy? Arguments in his favor he can make to his wife to try to get her to drop this job? All by reframing the issue and leaving out the much bigger and deeper picture of the preschool questions raised in the other thread's initial post. This OP only mentions the wife not wanting a kid in day care, but the other thread goes into how there's more than one kid, and the wife thinks there's no need for preschool (which raises totally different issues) etc. etc.

OP, you need to come clean if you are the OP of that other thread and discuss why you are re-framing this to eliminate aspects, like preschool, and details, like your other child, which are important overall.

If you are NOT the OP of the other thread, fine, but we do need to know. If you re-framed, you really are trying hard to get some support from the total strangers here. That would indicate to me that you and your wife communicate very poorly indeed. [/quote]

OP here. No that's not me. We have a toddler. No cleaning services. [/quote]

So, OP, there have been a lot of questions. Are you going to answer any of them?? What is the REAL issue you have with your wife working weekends? Is it that you miss her? Is it that you don't like being a solo parent? Or something else??[/quote].

OP here. I don't think it's helping her career. If she wants to work, I would like her to do something more respectable. I don't feel like it's taking away from family time. Our toddler is happy without her. I take him to the YMCA on Saturdays. We have a standing dinner party with friends every Saturday night. Anyway, she seems to be happy she can contribute to the finances. The above person that went on for never seems crazy, by the way. I couldn't read the whole thing.[/quote]

Ah, so the real issue is your find your wife’s job embarrassing. [/quote]

OP no,I just don't see it helping her. It's a dead end job.[/quote]

So?  Not everything has to be about maximizing your monetary worth.  She enjoys the job and it is good for her mental health.  Why isn’t that valuable in its own right?[/quote]

Why does his wife get to have everything she wants for her "mental health" 7 days a week.  She wanted to stay at home and not work - so despite what anyone jumps in and says about how "staying home is the hardest job in the world!" it's clearly not, or all these women wouldn't pick it over going back to work.  And then after she got the pick of what she wanted to do M-F, she also gets to pick what she wants to do on the weekends too?  So basically 7 days a week of her time are driven by her own emotional needs.  That's super selfish in a marriage.  I think there's something bigger going on, or she's just a selfish jerk.  [/quote]

Okay, so she can get a job during the week that might not even make enough to cover the cost of daycare, OP can take off for his share of sick days and other daycare closures, and then they can split all of the housework, chores and errands on the weekends.  Does that really sound like a great alternative?[/quote]

Op is fine with the kid being in daycare.  His wife doesn't want that.
Wife wants to be sahm mom during the week while also having all house cleaning outsourced and a weekend job for " mental health".  Someone is being unreasonable and it's not OP.[/quote]

You are conflating posters.  OP said they do not have house cleaners and has not indicated his wife has asked to hire house cleaners. [/quote]

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