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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There are support groups for everything.  I obviously do not know your situation, but I assure you that biological children of parents are not treated the same as each other.  There is plenty of resentment among biological siblings for real or perceived differences in the way they are treated.  I only suggest that you set aside your anger at being placed for adoption long enough to consider this possibility.  Your parents may not have been perfect, but would you have preferred the alternative, permanent foster care, abortion, the streets?  Sometimes life deals us a shitty hand.  It is up to us to decide how to play it.  Anger and bitterness will only ensure misery.  By all means find a support group, but for your own sake (and for those who love you now or in the future), make sure that it isn't just about justifying your anger instead of moving forward positively.  Good luck to you.  I truly wish you peace and happiness.[/quote]

Dear god really.

Yeah wow I didn't know that biological children were treated differently, thanks for letting me know.  The alternative to adoption for me would have been that my birth mom would have not been coerced into giving me up and I might have been spared abuse and severe RAD issues.  I'm not "justifying my anger," I'm dealing with actual neurological issues and yes I'm making the best of my "shitty hand."  My DW is also adopted and had a positive experience, but fortunately she knows better than to assume what happened to her is universal and she doesn't feel the need to lecture someone else about what they should think.      [/quote]

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