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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DCUM, please help me out here. One of my sisters had her one and only child pretty late in life, at 47, thanks to IVF. This girl is an apple in her parents' eyes. She is beautiful, a gifted student, skipped 2 grades. She was already in college when she was 15. At the same time, she is very divisive. When she was 12, she loudly proclaimed at a family function she wants nothing to do with US, doesn't want our visits, because  "you are boring, unstimulating and we have nothing in common". We brushed it off to a "moody teenager". But it's gotten worse. She is now 18 and ignores us. She does not acknowledge us when we visit, she has no relationships with any of our kids and grandkids. She disinvites us from events. My sister tried to prod her, even used threats, but it only makes her withdraw even more. My sister is sad but says she cannot force her to be more friendly. Whenever she is around us, she just sits there with a book and headphones on. She did not even want to be in the group picture with our elderly parents! I know she is not my kid but I am getting fed up. Should I attempt a conversation? We have done nothing wrong to her. There was never any abuse, since DCUM commentators will ask about that. We were all so happy when she was born, we wanted to be part of her life and she brushes us off. [/quote]

OP You sound pushy and entitled. You are holding an outburst that she made six years ago at age 12 against her? She is under no obligation to have a relationship with you or your kids. She disinvites you to events …I take it this means she doesn’t want you at her parties which is fine. It’s also fine for her to protest within her own family not to make it an extended family event. When you are visiting her mother, she keeps to herself. She grey rocks yu.

She doesn’t want a relationship with you and there is nothing wrong with ths. Leave her alone. [/quote]

No, you don't understand. She doesn't want a relationship with ANY of her mother's family. No grandparents, no aunts and uncles, no cousins. We cannot ALL be horrible, pushy and entitled. [/quote]

It's her choice and none of your business. If one person isn't interested, there isn't a relationship. All you can do is respect her boundaries, be open if she changes, or choose to be a bitter overbearing person who either wants to punish her for her choices or just gossip about her. [/quote]

Well, if she’s going to behave like a spoiled, snotty witch, don’t come. Stay home. 18-year-olds don’t need babysitters.[/quote]

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