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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I think your kids are picking up something from you and the language/ tone you use about their visits. If this is how they always visit, then it would be all your kids would know, so why would this stress them out? It’s not a problem that they just visit for the afternoon. I’m sure you can find a way to make it work (make a tradition of a playground visit or something). This is probably more of a *you* issue than it has to be for your kids. [/quote]

agree with this. I think there's a good chance they are reading off of your energy, OP. Do you stress and fret about getting the house clean and keeping it perfect until they arrive? Do you intervene constantly between your parents and your kids when they are visiting (to make sure your kids behave, say thank you, etc.)? Like are you being way too much of a puppet master? I'm just trying to understand how it's all so stressful. Stop saying they are "coming for a visit." Make a plan in advance of what you're going to do with them (go to the park, go to the beach, go to a toy store, go to a fancy lunch, etc.) and that's how you sell it. You are doing one event, one thing, one outing with them. It's not a "visit." And try to be self aware and ask yourself if your vibe is feeding any of this "stress."[/quote]

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