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I'd send the kid to a preschool. I don't know the arrangements at the Y but if it's preschool and not just day care, do it, or find a less expensive preschool (many churches run them, and they are not necessarily religiously based at all). Dad can cut some costs in terms of work lunches. Mom can cut back the cleaner's hours. And mom's salary can go toward preschool--are things so very tight that the choice is THAT binary? Only preschool OR a cleaner? There really are no other ways at all to afford preschool? Hard to believe.

Re: preschool itself: Those posting about "teaching" preschool to their kids at home don't understand that preschool provides a setting that helps kids be readier for kindergarten.

It's not just about early ABCs or creative sandbox play. Not even primarily about those things. The most important aspect of preschool, and the reason that "doing preschool at home" won't fully prepare a child to transition to kindergarten, is that it acclimates kids to important, basic [u]group[/u] routines without which kindergarten is going to be a more stressful adjustment:

Following directions from an adult who is [i]not[/i] mom or dad.
Changing from one activity to the next activity when everyone else does (and without a meltdown or being hugely distracted).
Being around other children without undue conflict (keeping your hands to yourself, sharing, etc.)
And so on.

Im sure parents will say, but my kid knows how to share with his or her siblings, and stops doing activity X when I say it's time to stop and move to activity Y. Yes, kids can do that at home, with the family--and with mom or dad or a familiar sitter telling them. But doing those same things in a group setting, with the distraction of other kids around, following the directions of an adult who isn't mom or dad? Much harder.

I have several friends who were K and early elementary teachers and they all said they could tell which kids had not had any form of preschool but came straight from being at home directly into kindergarten. Not saying those kids were "bad"! Just that they were the ones who had the tougher time adjusting to being in K and who therefore had difficulty with the learning part of K, due to being less ready for the social, "move from X to Y now" parts of the day.
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The kids who have struggles generally weren't prepared academically by  preschool or parents and K isn't exactly known for teaching.[/quote]

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