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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DC has a couple of acceptances. Whichever she chooses, she's certain that she'll try to transfer after freshman year. I hate to see her going into freshman year already planning to transfer out. Any advice from others who's kids have been in this position? I don't know how to help her.[/quote]

She’s a teenager. Being confused is normal. She’s disappointed that she didn’t get into her preferred choices, but she honestly doesn’t know what she’s missing. Frankly if she had gotten into one of her preferred colleges, she could have gone there and found that it wasn’t at all what she had imagined and then wanted to transfer. That happens all the time.

All you can do immediately is to comfort and console her. Do a lot of listening.

But she must move forward with what’s immediately at hand. That means making the best choice among the available options and preparing for going off to college in August. Let her know that you’ll be there to support her no matter what - including a transfer if that’s where her heart is next year..

If she hadn’t yet decided and if she doesn’t have a strong preference among the available options, I’d look closely to see which college has the best student orientation program. Some colleges will bring students onto campus before the start of the academic calendar and run any variety of programs for bonding and community building. Even if this should be only for one year, you still want it to be the best year it can be.

The future behind next year remains unknown. A lot can happen between now and then. Expect the unexpected.[/quote]

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