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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your post makes me sad.

I would be hurt and resentful if I were you also.

I suggest marriage counseling because it seems like you are feeling like your commitment to each other is not balanced.

Good luck.[/quote]

OP here.  This is true.

I’m not even sure what the end goal of counseling would be.  Do I want to be less committed to my marriage and family?  Do I want him to be more committed?  Will the weight loss help with that?

I’m afraid that if I don’t lose the weight, then he will see me as not only fat, but also weak and unmotivated.  [/quote]

NP, and I absolutely recommend couples therapy, having read your initial and subsequent posts.  Think of therapy as necessary to resolve whatever underlying issues his request and your response have surfaced.  Put another way: how does this problem get resolved without the help of a licensed professional?  The current dynamic you describe sounds both miserable and completely understandable from your perspective.  It also sounds like you have no idea how to resolve it (again, understandable, but all the more reason to seek help).[/quote]

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