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[quote=Anonymous]I feel like everyone takes EVERYTHING personally nowadays. If I talk about being busy (and I don't do this often but when I do) I am just genuinely busy! It isn't a competition, you asked me how I was, I'm busy!

I have three kids under 7, and in order to let them all be their own people, I try to let the older ones have an activity or two. This cuts into my time, and I resisted it for awhile because of that but I dunno, I want them to have some stuff. And there are times of year (like right now, actually) where I am honestly very overwhelmed by a particularly difficult time where we have a couple weekends of being over committed.

One thing that drives me insane is when people say "Oh I don't understand how do you do so much??? You're superwoman! You have it all so together! You watched all of love is blind?! How do you have time for that with everything you do?"

I get crap like that all the time, because I genuinely do not complain very much (because 1) what is the point and 2) everything I do is/was a choice I made). But you know what, I do it by putting one foot in front of the other every day just like everyone else. I frequently feel overwhelmed so it is certainly not something I do with ease, but if I complained about being overwhelmed I know it would offend a bunch of people. And honestly I also feel guilty a lot that I'm not doing enough because while we do a lot for one family, all my kids individually don't get to do as much as their peers.

A long way to say, everyone is walking a different path, I just worry about myself and try not to judge others and I wish everyone would do the same. I assume most parents are doing as much as they can without losing their sanity, and I fully understand that 'as much as they can without losing their sanity' is a bucket with dramatically different volume levels depending on the people involved. And how can you get mad at someone doing the best that they can do.[/quote]

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