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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here's what works for us. For tantrums, I validate her feelings...[/quote]

Sorry, but it's not working for you. [/quote]

Please explain why. I feel like "the haters" have strong opinions that the "softer" parenting is not working, but not providing examples or advice on now to nip a tantrum in the bud for the kids who inherently challenge and push limits. [/quote]

Why? Because, right there you lost and she won. This was the "boundaries test" that everybody keeps talking about and you failed it - even if you won the particular tantrum battle. Those feelings are the bud you are supposed to nip. Feelings are not sacred; by making them such you support a child in thrall of her wants.[/quote]

I see it as it's the actions as what you want to nip, not the feelings. Feelings are what they are and can be intense, and I see validating them as helps give the child language and understanding so that next time he/she can exert control over them.

I'm the pp asking for explanation, not the "you". Just someone who's parent attempted to do a lot of nipping, and who has a great deal of anger issues today. I wish I'd had more help processing my intense feelings as a kid. [/quote]

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