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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can't really help, sorry.  I have two sons, and I am close to them.  But ever since they were young and went through the "you're not my friend anymore" phase, I used to tell them I've never been their friend, I'm their mother.  One is permanent, one is not.  So now we laugh about it when I say something about being their friend--they always remind me that we're not friends.  :)

Anyway, I tend to think that the "best friends" parents perhaps viewed the parenting role differently.  I also don't think you should necessarily share the types of things with your kids that you would with an adult close friend.  It might be different once your kids are also adults, but I just don't see how that works until your kids are at least in their mid 20s--and my oldest is only now 21.

Interested to hear the responses from others.[/quote]

I was incredibly close to my dad my whole life and he used to say 'parents should be parents.  they don't become your 'friend' until after they are grown'.  There is a lot of wisdom in that.  My dad and I always got along well, but a parent will lay down the rules when they need to.  A parent won't be doing things just to stay 'chummy or likeable and cool--or be opening the house to parties with alcohol, or openly permissive about things they should be footing their foot down about.

I later became a co-worker and a really good friend to my dad :).  I cherish that time and I'm glad my parents could be strict when needed and set clear boundaries, even it if meant I hated them for doing that at the time.[/quote]

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