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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well, to put things in perspective, I went to university 500+ miles away from my home in the '80s and was only able to communicate with my parents by letter or a once-a-week long distance call (it was too expensive to call more often) from the common use phones in the dorm.  [b]Much easier now to stay connected -- perhaps too easy?[/b] [/quote]

Nope. I actually believe that what you’re describing is a major cause of mental illness among college students who have it. 
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PP here. By that I mean I think going 500+ miles away from college is a very bad idea for most kids, contributing to anxiety, rugged individualism and loneliness. Life is short and young adults should spend time with their families.[/quote]

WOW!!! Majority of 18 yo are [b]ready [/b]to spread their wings and go more than 500+ miles from home for college.  Some are not, and yes, they should choose a college location closer to home.  Both of my kids will be 2-3K miles from home.  Oldest is graduating this year and guess what, staying within 2 hours of where Dc attended college. While I wish DC was closer to home, I am THRILLED that DC has a meaningful job, friends and will thrive not being close to home.  Ultimately, that is the goal---I didn't raise my kids so they would stay at home or 1 mile away forever.  I want my kids to explore the world and do what makes them happy.

If you kid isn't ready for that, then perhaps you haven't prepared them. My kids have had progressively more freedoms each year, letting them grow up and make choices (mostly good) and learn from any mistakes while at home, so they will be ready to be in college and on their own wherever life brings
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It has nothing to do with readiness. It would be incredibly rude to miss a family reunion, a baptism of a family member, a funeral, etc all for “studying.”[/quote]

Incredibly rude???  Many people do NOT live within 2 hours of their Family.  If the college kid is fine with missing these events, then it's time for the rest of the family to adjust and learn that kid may not be at every single family event.  And that is OK.

For family reunion, perhaps the family should plan it in the summer or over winter break.  For a funeral---the kid would obviously come home if that is important to them.  
Part of growing up is realizing that most families do not remain in the same city/general area. I would NEVER want my kid to feel forced to take a job/attend college in order to stay within 2 hours of where I live.  That means having to plan and travel for important events and also means missing some events.

My own oldest kid will start first real job 2 weeks after college graduation on a Monday, 2K miles from home.  A Wednesday HS graduation for younger sibling will happen that same week, without oldest in attendance. Oldest will watch the livestream and FaceTime sibling after.  Oldest's company starts new employees on first Monday of each month and DC doesn't want to wait another month to start working (and company doesn't really want that either).  So DC will miss sibling's HS graduation.  Life will go on---youngest will still graduate HS and have a great celebration.  They will have seen each other for 4 days at oldest's graduation 2 weeks before. We will celebrate both graduations after the HS graduation for our kids.

Basically, many families are still close, loving families but don't all live in same town and cannot always be in attendance at every event.

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