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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow. Congrats. YTA.

I think everyone with little kids expects it to be hard. Expects it to be busy. I honestly don't think that working/SAHP makes a huge difference, depending on your temperament (and I work, FWIW), though long hours or a very stressful job would be harder for sure. I think this is all true whether you have one, two, three or even four kids. Okay, once you're really out of the mainstream with like 6 kids, that's a different story. But you're not talking about the Duggars, you're talking about people with three kids! Isn't the average something like 2.5?

There are plenty of people who love their children, love having a large family, and recognize that yes, the early years are going to have some very tough moments, and accept that trade-off and the risks that come with it. Because it's worth it for them.

And yet, they may have a season of life where it's stressing them out a bit more than they're comfortable with, and so they come here for commiseration/advice. No matter whether you work or not, or have one kid or four, with special needs or without, kids are HARD and there will be a time when it feels like too much. LIFE is like that, even if you DON'T have kids.

These aren't people coming and saying "well, I had three kids, and I work 110 hours a week, we live on food stamps, we beat the kids regularly because we can't handle the whining, we are really mad that they spilled juice on our pristine white upholstered furniture, the youngest needs glasses but we just tell him to squint, and we are considering a fourth, what do you think?" The kids are well cared for, the adults are generally okay, it's just hard sometimes. Life isn't always predictable. Maybe kids at ages 1, 5, and 7 were fine, but 2, 6 and 8 is stressing you out and by 3, 7, and 9 you'll be back in your groove. Does that one tough year mean it was crazy to have your youngest child, who you love and adore and has added so much richness to your life?

That's not your priority, great. But people are different and prioritize different things even if it's tough and sometimes they need a little advice. Get off your high horse. You might struggle, too, one day.

--mom of two[/quote]

Whoa whoa whoa PP this was way to thoughtful and balance for these here parts [/quote]

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