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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kid hates any fuss, so we won’t be doing a reveal. However, the college application  process is a long and arduous ordeal. Lots of kids don’t get into their top choices. I think having some fun and getting your kid excited about wherever they’re going is totally fine. I’m a little mystified about why so many people on here are so anti-celebration. Life is tough, let’s take the wins and celebrate them![/quote]

I'm not anti-celebration.  I'm against turning everything into Instagram-worthy fodder, because apparently your life only matters if it's documented on social media with sufficient production value.  It's so materialistic and performative.  [b]Have a nice dinner or call Grandma and Grandpa to tell them the exciting news! [/b] Buy a sweatshirt!  But it's like gender reveals, promposals, smash cakes, etc.  Everything is about generating the right photos to get likes.  It's gross.  [/quote]
You can’t possibly have high schoolers![/quote]

Sorry your kids aren't close to their grandparents.[/quote]
It has nothing to do with them not being close. 
It’s developmentally normal for high school kids to want to celebrate with their friends, not their grandparents. Again, it seems like you don’t have high schoolers. [/quote]
It is also developmentally normal to celebrate with your family and to recognize that grandparents literally live for this news.[/quote]
+1
Kids can celebrate with their friends AND their family.  It's not actually mutually exclusive.  Honestly, it seems like a really white, UMC thing to act like all kids want nothing to do with their families.  Even when I was growing up, my MC/WC family was much closer, and you shared your great news with family, and family celebrated stuff together.   Grandma would make a big fuss (and your favorite meal).  And then you ALSO celebrated with your friends.  My kids love to call their grandparents to share their good news, because they are close, and because their grandparents are 100% purely proud.  There's no competition like there can be with friends, you don't have to downplay anything, etc.  It's just a different dynamic.  [/quote]

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