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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, your posts have been eliciting negative reactions because they’re basically a bottomless pit of self-flagellation and extreme emotion. There’s nowhere to go with this but stuck in the muck.

While what you did was morally wrong, you are splitting things off and idealizing your ex-wife as “all good” and yourself as “all bad” and idealizing her and your lost relationship. She is human, you hurt her deeply, yes - but you also were very self-destructive and hurt yourself as well.

Your post is “emotion vomit” and I read it with irritation and thought “snap the F out of it, pull yourself together”. Sitting in your therapist’s office and saying over and over again “I’m a sh*t, I ruined everything, I’m an awful person and I hurt my angelic, perfect, soulmate wife” isn’t going to get you out of the muck. Sit with these feelings, try to understand yourself and what was at the root of your behavior and dysfunction, and take responsibility. Keep working on it every day. But no more self-pity or s**tting all over yourself. [/quote]

This is exactly what my therapist told me. Thank you. I wish I could internalize it. But I can't find a way to live without my ex-wife. And accept that I lost my marriage - the most precious thing I had - over a sexual addiction. [/quote]

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