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[quote=Anonymous]My DH is the breadwinner, I SAH with our 3 children (2 school age, one toddler) and we employ a part-time nanny/housekeeper.

I not-so-secretly resent the hours he works, the constant Blackberry monitoring when he is home and the conference calls on the weekends (they are occasional, but they get on my nerves because family time is so limited.)

He does not hang out with his buddies or keep time consuming hobbies, so really all of his time not working is with us.  He adores the kids and stays home late enough in the mornings to see them off to school.  Typically, he'll get home after bedtime about 3 times a week.  If he makes it home before bedtime, it is an hour, 2 if we're lucky.  We cherish vacations and are bummed that snow didn't force all inside together at least once this winter! :-)

SAH is what I wanted - DH was supportive either way.  I do miss the autonomy and have struggled with the lack of adult interaction, intellectual stimulation, sense of accomplishment, etc.  I was on a fast career track prior to kids, working long hours, traveling all around the country - slamming the brakes on that to stay home and raise a child was a huge transition for me.

But, in the end, I felt - and still feel, that this arrangement was best for my kids (don't care if that sounds 1950s to you).  We checked out the best of the best daycares/nannies - and nothing felt right - nothing seemed even close to what I wanted for them.

So here we are.  Not perfect, but doing the best we can.  [/quote]

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