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[quote=Anonymous]NP here. I do think there are so many grandparents willing to babysit so often simply because they have so few grandchildren, in some cases at most 1 or 2, so when their late-30-something so or daughter finally have a kid that kid is the Christ child and doted on to the point of ridiculousness. That one kid is their reason to exist and they'll happily watch that child while mom and dad work because let's face it, grandma and grandpa may be in their late 60s, early 70s at that point and they're getting in all the time they can. So it turns into quantity over quantity.

Many of us had great grandparents who probably never babysat their grandchildren (and some were probably dead by the time the grandchildren showed up). Maybe they helped out with the first or two, but they probably didn't have to do much because moms way back then weren't working unless they had to or were highly educated professionals.

Grandparents decades ago had 5+ kids themselves, and when those 5+ kids had a few kids each in the 50s, chances are again, moms stayed home and auntie down the road picked up the slack. And they were probably too damn TIRED to chip in, even if asked.

So, today, babyboomer grandparents have to wait an extra 10-20 years for the grandkids to show up and when they do, they've got the time and extra income to spend on them. It's a different dynamic. Back to the main question, though-- they're judged differently because the family dynamics are different. They're alive, they're not working, they've got (limited) time they want to cram into the remaining years of their lives, and they're often (happily) free of charge.

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