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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yeah that’s pretty terrible.  I have a 15 year old DSS and am very lucky that my parents treat him totally equally (down to putting the same amount in his 529 as for their biological grandkids).

I would hold firm.[/quote]

OP here,

My parents are wealthy and they have money set up for college for my kids only. I am only child and they do spoil my kids rotten but I just will love all kids to be included on a holiday trip. It's weird to separate them. My husband parents are really nice and fair with all kids. Ex-wife parents live in a different state. I want all my kids to have nice vacation, money for college and normal childhood experiences. My parents are 65 and 68 years old, excellent health and retired.[/quote]

That sounds nice and all, but I’m thinking of my two children and how hard it is to find common things that they both like for a week for mine in elementary and mine in high school. You are asking a lot of the grandparents to take 4 kids to Paris. [/quote]

OP here,

The trip to Paris is just one example, tickets to concert, and other high end activities they always exclude my step kids. My dh and I have try to be nice and not set boundaries with my parents, but this trip was just the end of it.  
I will allowed my 10 year old daughter to go with my parents and my dh and I will plan a different vacation for the three kids. My 12 year old refused completely. She wants to vacation with her sisters. [/quote]

OP - I think these posters who are defending your parents are cruel.  You have raised these girls since they were little.  Would these posters discriminate against an adopted child?  Because that is basically what this family looks like.  It isn't as though they were 16 when you got married.  Your parents are harboring an old school attitude that frankly is ugly.  I think that I would have made a bigger stink about it a long time ago.  What's good for one child is good for all the kids.  What is important is YOUR attitude, not theirs.  If you treat these girls as daughters, then your parents should respect that and act accordingly.[/quote]

Here’s what’s ugly:

Stepdaughters solo trips to maternal grandparents are allowed and encouraged.

Daughter’s solo trip with maternal grandparents are banned/vilified as disrespectful of half sisters. Daughters must choose between grandparents and half sisters. That’s really ugly. [/quote]

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