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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you sound lovely.

[b]My dad adopted my sister, you would never know she wasn’t his child biology.[/b]

When my sister married someone with children already, my parents treated them just like my sister’s bio child, including taking them on vacation, picking them up from school, etc.

My sister’s stepson now has his own kids (including step kids) - those kids get the same treatment at Christmas.

This is not hard and your parents are crappy for it. Maybe Paris is too much for 4, but you don’t only say half the group if it isn’t already part of your pattern.[/quote]

An adopted child is nothing like a stepchild. OP’s stepchildren have a mother who loves them and they live with her half the time. Just the fact that you think this situation is anything like an adoption shows you have no idea what you’re talking about. [/quote]

[b]1.) He didn’t have to adopt her. [/b]And, I have had multiple people try to describe her as my “half” sister - we were not raised like that. She is just my sister.
2.) did you read the rest of the post where there are “step grandchildren” and my parents treat them just like their biological grandchildren?

It is a choice to love someone, biologically related or not. Her parents made this choice years ago and I have no patience for such people.[/quote]

Of course he didn’t have to adopt her. It’s wonderful that he wanted to, but for that to be an option it means your sister’s bio father was not in her life. This is where you’re missing the point: Even if OP wanted to adopt her stepkids, that is not an option because these girls already have a mother who love and care for them.

No matter how much OP wants to pretend otherwise, the stepdaughters already have a mother.

No matter how much OP wants to pretend otherwise, the stepdaughters already have maternal grandparents who they visit WITHOUT their half sisters. OP is creating a weird situation where the stepdaughters are allowed to have one on one visits with their maternal grandparents but it’s somehow horrible for her daughters maternal grandparents to have one on one visits with their grandchildren.

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