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[quote=Anonymous]There is this inflection point in all relationships where you ask yourself, is this person worth it?

I’m not talking about the food or money. I’m talking about if this person is worth it to you to keep in your life because you really like them.

I’m at an inflection point right now with this person who I keep asking to spend some time with and it’s not working out.  She says she’s really busy. She can’t meet for coffee.  Blah blah blah blah.  Rejection after rejection.

I had to ask myself - is she worth the effort?

I don’t know her well enough. She doesn’t reciprocate at all. She’s friends with one of my close friends and she has stopped talking to her too.

Part of me doesn’t want to give up, but I’m beginning to think it’s a sunken cost fallacy. And it’s not money I’m referring too- I have really tried to be her friend and be there for her but she won’t let me in. So I think she doesn’t really like me and won’t put in the effort.

So I’m going to stop putting social and emotional currency into this and work on making friendships with people who actually want the same thing.

It’s going to be hard. But my god, it’s better than having to deal with this as a grown up adult. [/quote]

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