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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]See, you just don't get it. The kids who aren't getting off their couches after college are not stuck in that rut because their parents didn't "mentor them" or put them in academic after school programs. This kind of failure to launch is emotional, NOT academic or intellectual. It affects kids who have no inner-directed reason to achieve, or are depressed, or feel like a failure if they can't be the absolute best at every possible thing. And the kinds of parents most likely to produce such an adult are the tiger parents.

Yeah, there are children of tiger moms who achieve everything their parents want them to (notice, their parents want them to. This breed of parenting is a form of narcissism.) and others who, once they can, do everything possible to thumb their noses at their parents Cause ultimately its the kids who are in control and the best way to prove that is to try to exert complete control over your children.

My DC is both a facebooking happy regular kid and a "high academically performing kid." Its only in the simplistic binary world of narcissism are the two mutually exclusive, are parents who aren't as controlling as them deemed destined to be failures. [/quote]

I get it all right.  You want Tiger moms to reel in their happy high academically performing kids in order to free up spaces for your happy facebooking and high academically performing kids in our magnet schools at the elementary, middle school, college, graduate school and professional school levels?  If both our kids are happy and high performers why should any of us change?  Give me one good reason.  My child is not aspiring for your child's lifestyle.  [/quote]

You illustrate my point beautifully.  You see this as a competition.  You control your child in certain ways and he or she will perform in certain way.  Kind of like a computer.  And, again, with the binary view.  My happy facebooking child is doing pretty well in terms of placement because she has discovered intellectual passions.  This has nothing to do with her parents signing her up for math tutoring and extra language classes.  We didn't do any of those things, though we do have a house full of books and we all love to read.  Rather, we gave her space to develop, to find her own passions, and she has done so on her own terms.  If you want to get competitive about it she is a straight A student at a Big 3 school.  Also, she spends time on facebook with her friends.  As long as you see the kids who spend time on facebook as "other,"  as reflections of their parents' (poor) choices, I feel for your kids.

I think prodigy has it right in terms of how kids of such parents relate to their parents as adults.[/quote]

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