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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My son was admitted to STA from a K-8. He's very bright with major strengths in language arts, but generally an underperformer, mainly due to lack of effort. This seems to be because of a lack of maturity, which seems to be getting better recently. When he puts effort into things, he does well.

We're not particularly excited with the other schools he got into, so we would like him to attend STA--we're just feeling concerned about his work habits. Anyone have experience with this situation, and your DC ended up doing very well?[/quote]

Congrats on your son's admission.

STA would not have taken him if they did not think they could get him to thrive and approach his potential.

[b]If he gets Ms D for 9th Grade English she will whip him into shape....[/b]

The HS boys are also all doubling down and its cool to work your A++ off and be smart at STA- that is basically the culture. In my opinion that gets the best out of most young men[/quote]

I hope OP doesn't take to heart comments posted anonymously on this forum by people who are using just conjecture and have never seen OP's son's grades, test scores , recs or interviewed him.

STA admitted the kid. They don't need to admit anyone and  say, NO, to most. So, OP, if you have study habit concerns, ask questions at/ after new parent orientation which I think is in early May.

IMHO PPs are way jumping the gun telling you not to enroll your son and speculating on how he will be " damaged" if you do. People who don't even know him or the facts. Just ridiculous

New poster here. 
And he will get a C and it will be on his transcript for college.  I was at the NCS auction last night and a number of us have 9th grade boys and they're all getting Cs in this class.  
You are making it sound so optimistic and wonderful but I'm in the middle of a year from hell with a 9th grader. 
Look, I love STA.  I think most of us mostly do.  But it's just  hell when you're trying to motivate an unmotivated boy to do the work. 
These kids don't get better between 6th and 9th.  They almost uniformly get less motivated, often drastically so when hormones kick in. 
I don't understand the poster who keeps posting such falsely optimistic crap.  I'm a realist---and one who is going through this experience right now.  IT'S MISERABLE TO BE PRODDING ALONG AN UNMOTIVATED BOY 
AT A DEMANDING SCHOOL.  It sucks--for the kid, for the parent and I'm sure for the teachers.  
There is more to high school than a certain diploma.  Fit is so freaking important.

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Okay, so he'll get a C on his transcript - maybe even (gasp) more than one. And colleges will see. And he'll get admitted somewhere and the world will keep turning and he'll probably live a long, happy, and productive life. And if he doesn't? It probably wasn't because of that C freshman year of high school.

What if, instead of prodding along your son, making it a "year from hell" for all involved, you disengage. Stop prodding. Stop pushing. Stop trying to provide motivation. Right now he has zero reason to be motivated because he knows you're going to push and prod and poke as needed to make sure he does well enough to get by. Until you stop, he has no reason to take this on himself. Ideally that transition happens in middle school - the parents back off, the kids take ownership and/or fall on their faces a few times in the process, maybe get some bad grades, and learn before they're into the "this counts for college!" zone. But if you didn't, better to do it now than later on in high school, or, worse, never. What's your plan for if he's unmotivated in college? His first job? Grad school?[/quote]

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