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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'd say it's a pretty big deal. The wanting for sex is a strong urge.
Once you do the injection, is at all good from there? If it is, that's a positive. [/quote]

That's my question as well - do the injections work?  My DH has suffered from ED for a while because of a medical condition.  Pills/injections don't work for him.  It's not what I ever envisioned for us (we both have/had strong sex drives and our sex life was great) but we'd been married 20 years and he was a great partner.  We do other stuff so our intimacy remains strong - and our communication around it was pretty good and that made a huge difference.  I'm okay where we are because ED is part of 'the package' and what I like about 'the package' far outweighs the parts I don't.  Only you can decide if this guy has enough positive things in his 'package'.  What if the injections stop working? [/quote]

They do work, see below.

I would find it pretty difficult if they stopped working and so would he. [b]I would feel inadequate and it would weigh on me if I couldn’t reciprocate in giving him orgasms[/b]. His other skills are outstanding but it doesn’t leave me a lot of options to get even.[/quote]

I'm the PP with the DH with ED.  This is a 'you' issue.  I don't mean this in a snarky way so please don't take it that way - you need to work on this.  Yes, orgasms are great but when a medical condition impacts one's ability to have one, it shouldn't be taken personally.  Your feelings of inadequacies regarding his medical condition shouldn't require him to give you reassurances and make you feel better.

My DH and I can't have PIV but we still enjoy a sex life.  I know he finds me very attractive and I find him attractive.  We have found other ways to pleasure each other and maintain intimacy.  If you think the only way you can give a guy sexual pleasure is through PIV and orgasm, you are limited in your imagination.  As a PP said, despite what's going on in The Villages in FL, the vast majority of men will experience age related performance issues.  Whether you end up with this guy or not, you need to wrap your head around the idea that this will not be the last time you experience this.  [/quote]

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