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[quote=Anonymous]Is HE bothered if he doesn't get off easily all the time? I'm in a long-term relationship with a wonderful guy who's also around 60. He has some degree of ED, but he doesn't need meds all the time, only to be more consistent and long-lasting. That's the reality once you hit a certain age. Another reality is that there is loss of sensitivity with age and more difficulty in climaxing, for both sexes. For me, it happened after menopause. We have a very exciting, fun, active sex life even if there are plenty of times that either one or neither one of us finishes. That's simply how it is for many people after a certain age. Neither of us is bothered at all, nor do we take it personally if we can't "get the other off" all the time. That's something you have to accept if you want to keep having fun sex past a certain age. The sex changes and fewer climaxes are part of that.

So you have to decide if that's something you can accept and get over (not being able to "get him off" all the time). Right now, it seems like that is a "him" issue, but at a certain point it will be an issue with most guys (unless you stick to younger guys) and it even might be an issue with you. The way I see it, this is a current, temporary mismatch. Chances are you will "catch up" with him in a few years, in terms of lowered sexual response. Or, you will start seeing this more and more as you get older if you keep dating guys close to your age. Only you can decide if this is something you can deal with right now or you'd rather postpone the sexual "disfunction" until you're older. Bottom line - that's what's coming in a few years anyway. Can you accept and learn to deal with it now or do you want a few more years of sex with guys that are better matched to your current sexual state?[/quote]

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