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I don't get many dates from OLD as a woman in my late twenties living in the Bay Area. The big factor I assume is that I'm morbidly obese, have a BMI of 47.5. This is down from 53.0 last year. I'm trying to lose weight slowly and have stopped trying to date right now and plan to restart in the summer of fall. I'm wondering for larger woman that have success dating (are sought out), what is your BMI? I think [b]I have a good personality[/b] and have a good job, but in OLD that is not most important.I'm wondering at what point I'm attractive not necessarily to the majority, but some people. It may be hard since there aren't many obese people in the area.

OP- I’m white, it seems that makes a difference? And I would say the men that tend to be at least somewhat into me are extremely nerdy, borderline ASD white men or south Asian men, almost all work in engineering/tech. I kind of realized I may be a back up for these men, as they probably don’t get a lot of attention. [b]I tend to not get involved with the south Asian men[/b] because I feel like they’re fetishizing me for being white. Though I am nerdy and into nerdy men, I just don’t know, nobody ever seems super into me. [/quote]You do not have a good personality. You have a racist, shallow, personality, and lie saying it is the weight.  First step is to start writing: [i]I am vividly aware woman my size get dates even in much worse boy/girl ratio areas, but when men get exposed to my behavior, they lose interest[/i]. [/quote]

NP. OP. Is not being racist. She is just noting that some South Asian men can be colorist and can fetishize whiteness. See Shake on season 2 of the reality show Love is Blind - he said he cannot find South Asian women attractive, even though he is South Asian, and has only dated blond haired white women. Of course not all South Asian men are like this, and even if some have a preference it doesn't mean they are fetishists. I think OP should vet the South Asian men who approach her online and give one or two that she is attracted to a chance before painting them all with the same brush. If OP is looking for marriage, I would vet the South Asian men for that as well, because it's also a thing for South Asians to date other races and ethnicities but when it's time to marry, they marry someone from their family's country of origin.[/quote]

People seem to forget that Deepti on Love is Blind ALSO only dated blonde men until they met![/quote]

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