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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You know it is rude.  I can't even imagine a world in which the biggest problems people have are loved ones who are too generous.  If you have the relationship with your ILs you say you have, have a quiet conversation with them and your husband about overload.  Completely legitimate.  Hurting people we love who love us, not so much.[/quote]

If you haven't experienced it, then, no,you don't understand how excessive gift-giving can be destructive ( and you should shut your pie hole).

I really disagree with anyone who says the son was rude.  He was perfectly polite in his refusal.  No one is obligated to accept a gift from anyone, especially in a situation such as this where the grandparents have nicely been asked to tone it down.  The grandparents are rude and manipulative.  
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Amen sister! OP likes her ILs, this has nothing to do with not liking them. This is about BOUNDARIES.In many professions you are not allowed to accept gifts because they are considered a form of manipulation. Gifts among friends and relatives really are often truly from the heart, but yes, there is plenty of manipulative gift giving and using gifts as a weapon crap too. There is also plenty of grandparent competition too with gifts. No means no. If mama says no big toys, no big toys. Unless these grandparents are raising these kids, it is not their place to ignore the parent's wishes. The boy declined politely. End of story.The adults should act like adults and respect the boys wishes.

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