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[quote=Anonymous]We do not have all the things you listed to consider, but are facing a similar decision.

Our son (a "young 13yo") is not interested in moving from public middle school to private high school for the sole reason of fear of losing his current friends.  He's not vehemently opposed to going to the private but if it were entirely his choice it's very clear he would go to the public high school.

We consider this to be a decision we need to make on his behalf.  We see the benefits of the private to be significant in many ways, including areas that he does not recognize.

He sees that the private school we're looking at is a good school and has good programs and good people (we know several families who go there, including, ironically, one of his best friends since he was 5).  From our perspective, he and his current friends are likely to grow in different directions/have different interests, and his middle school friends will be going to 4+ high schools and some friends will be dispersed in that way as well.  We have a strong "village" in place with families that we know well and see that continuing, regardless of where the kids attend school (some at various privates, some at various publics), and while there will be additional work required to maintain those relationships, we're willing to do what we need to and believe our son will continue to remain friends with his peers that have common interests.  Perhaps all of that is rationalization on our part, but, well, it all seems rational.

And so we are faced with a decision where we see many, many reasons for the change and one reason against, and we need to consider how strongly we weigh his vote in our decision.  At the moment mom is more sensitive to his perspective than dad, but we're leaning toward having him go to the private.[/quote]

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