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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, why isn't your husband dealing with this, instead of you?  They're his parents.  I would have thought you were a single mother until I got to the 4th page of this thread.

This is how you deal with unwanted gifts:
1) Thank the giver in person (shut up that you don't want it, that's where your son is rude)
2) Write a thank you note, no matter what
3) donate it or other clutter to make room for it at a later time

If your HUSBAND (prefered) or you would like to request that HIS parents stop giving you a certain type of gift, there are some families where that is possible.  But you've tried and it's obviously not going to happen here, so get over it.  Control what you can control: what stays in your house.

It's annoying to me that your child has obviously picked up on your distaste for this consumerism (I agree, it's not my style) [b]and you are trying to argue that he's not being rude to his grandparents by refusing the gift[/b], just because you don't want it or agree with him.[/quote]

When did I ever argue that he's not being rude?  Go back and read MY posts (I've identified myself in each one) and even my very last post at the bottom I write "I still grapple with whether we should have taken it or not."  Good Lord, people, my whole post was about my struggle with this issue.  I thought it was rude to refuse the gift, but my ILs keep giving an excessive amount of toys.

Also, I don't have a distaste for consumerism - I love consumerism, I have a distaste of unbelievable excessiveness - we probably have about 50-60 toy vehicles of various sizes and gadgets attached to them - and that's just the cars, trucks, etc.  That doesn't even begin to describe the board games, nerf paraphernalia, balls of various sizes, robots, legos, etc.

For the pps that asked why I talk to them - we both have talked to them.  I am closer to MIL and my DH is closer to his father.  At various and appropriate times, we've talked to each of them about this.  I've talked to MIL and DH talked to FIL.  We've never sat them down and talked to them together about this because we always did it when DS wasn't around, so when MIL and I are out together alone, I bring it up.  When DH does something with his dad alone, he brings it up.  There's not a time when the 4 of us are together that DS isn't with us.

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