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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP- I’ll play bad cop.

You agreed to a no-strings affair with both of you being married.  And, then you changed the rules on him.  I’m guessing you were pushing for more than he was willing to give the longer this thing went on—more meet ups, public outings, etc.  It’s quite possible his situation changed for the better at home too.

He likely tried pulling away, doing the gradual fade out that the other poster did, but you were t getting the hint or he was being weak and caving in for the sex.  He likely got overwhelmed and wanted FINALITY so he said things to ensure it was ended for good—especially if you two had a push-pull volatile type of affair where you’d fight make up, etc.

Affairs are between immature people that often are broken so behavior like that is common.  Also, men compartmentalize sex.  Sounds like he was tired of the whole thing or it ran it’s course for him and the stress was too much.

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Man here who broke off an affair in an unfortunately ugly way and this is very accurate for what my thought process was. I was reluctant to start an affair (not dodging blame, she pursued me) and she was the one who constantly assured at the start it was NSA, just two lonely married people finding physical affection on the side. Of course, I am an idiot for thinking it would stay that way. And after about 2 years, it was exactly as described, demands for more time, more public meetings. The final straw was when she made up a reason why I had to see her when she knew I had a family obligation and it led to an ugly end.

All that being said, I feel for you, OP. You made a mistake as did I and I have definitely learned from it.[/quote]

^Listen to the men on this one, OP[/quote]

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