Reply to Does the lack of an age gap create more problems in marriages than we acknowledge?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Does the lack of an age gap create more problems in marriages than we acknowledge?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]1) Men age faster and worse than men. Heart attacks, earlier death, etc.

2) Men are perfectly capable of maturing as fast as women if they are not babied and infantilized by their family and society.

DH and I were both 27 when we got married. We immediately started having kids. We already had professional jobs. It's wonderful to be married to someone the same age. We share cultural touchpoints and are in the same places professionally, so we can relate very well. Of course his hairline is receding and he has dadbod but my eye isn't wandering so all is well. [/quote]

+1[/quote]

I was in serious to semi-serious 4 month to 1.5 year relationships with men who were: 16 years older, 4 years older, 6 years older, 2 years younger and 4 years younger before marrying my DH at age 34, who is exactly 9 months younger than me and was in the same school year class. I love our age dynamic more than I’d have expected as we’ve aged together for a few years now (in our late 30’s). We have the same song, book, internet experiences, among all the other cultural / generational elements. And it also goes for our parents, who are also all about the same age and get along really well.

Relative to my previous relationships, it’s just easy and not something I ever have to think about. We are building a life together as equal partners, as opposed to me feeling more ”inserted” into an older man’s existing life or helping a younger man figure out his path, which I did feel pangs of at various points with those other guys.

We never know what life has in store when it comes to aging and illness, but as others have said, the character and maturity of your partner and your compatibility together aren't age dependent. It’s just icing on the cake for me, personally, to feel very in sync with DH with shared past experiences and we were also on the same page when it came to starting our family, taking care of aging parents, and other timeline related decisions.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics