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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you unhappy? Unfulfilled? I really don’t get the draw to want to have relationship with every person you are related to.  It’s ok to not know a half sibling, or care.
 
Focus on your own family.  [/quote]
I think most people think a sibling  is family.   Again,  louder for those in the back- a SIBLING.  As in-  "another child your parent (s) had."  Sibling. 50% of your DNA or 25% if it is a half sibling.

Not a second cousin  once removed  or some aunt from the "old country." A sibling. [/quote]

A sibling is a sibling because you were raised together by the same parents.  A “sibling” that shares 25% DNA that was raised by different people in a different location all their life if no more family to you than a random stranger [/quote]

You feel very strongly about this. Was there a situation in your own life that has led you to feel this way?[/quote]

No, I am content with my life and the people in it.  I just don’t get the obsessive nature of people seeking out those they share DNA with.  We are all related somewhere down the line. If I found out my dad had another kid at some point, and they lived in Jersey, I would just file it under interesting things and move on.  I wouldn’t make it some mission to seek this person out and start up a relationship.  Blood relation shouldn’t make a big difference.  As evidence by the family forum here, plenty of people don’t like those related to them and chose not to keep up a relationship (or would like not to).  Plenty of people have friends that are closer to them than some of their blood relatives. Sharing DNA has little to do with personal compatibility with a person.  [/quote]
It doesn't  have to be about relationships at all. However,  the record needs to be set straight. People need to understand their origin story- including the children who were kept by a birthparent because they need to know who their siblings are,who their family tree is. This goes far beyond people in question..it affects all generations going forward.  It also affects the original nuclear family- they need to know who their parents really were and what they were responsible for. But, no one needs to be close  or even have a relationship.  It's just about truth. [/quote]

You are projecting your needs and wishes onto others who don’t feel the same way.  [/quote]

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