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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks 123 Magic poster.  I did skim through most of the book but agree with PP that my 18 month old will not understand the counting yet. Maybe we will try in a year when he gets more verbal.

As to what I do now, I try the respectful parenting thing of acknowledging his request while holding my boundary. Functionally that looks like me shoveling food in for 3 mins while he cries and tugs at my arm and clothes.  I would not call this a success.  Dad tries to distract hum but not even screen time works and he only wants me.

DH also has no free time so it's not just me.  The only "me time" we feel like we get is after our son goes to daycare and we are working.  Other babies and toddlers we interact with seem way more chill.  I think we are just slowly accepting that this is a death march til age 3 or 4 or whatever.  It's so hard that neither of us have any bandwidth to even consider a second so we are most likely one and done.

Just wish I could enjoy this stage of parenting more. 
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One of my kids was very high maintenance and I was still able to eat without being tugged on. It sounds like you do just have a really demanding kid. I know you're getting inundated with advice here so sorry for piling more on, but I'd say you need to get comfortable with the idea of your child crying when he's not with you. My SIL had a kid who basically just screamed for the first 18 months of life unless *she* was rocking him in a very specific way. The only way she survived was by having her husband put the kid in a jogging stroller [b]and go on a jog[/b]. She hated knowing that he was screaming the entire time, but at least she could have a break from the crying and rocking.

So you could do something like that, or get a babysitter who can take your kid out for a walk. Your kid only wants you but he'll survive with another adult. [/quote]

To clarify, the husband went on a jog with the baby, not my SIL. [/quote]

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