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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH had a year long affair that ended when I found out 3 years ago. I’m just now actually getting to the question of what it means for our marriage. I’m leaning out. The cheating is one thing, [b]the lies, manipulation and gaslighting are another. The gaslighting - on any old topic, not just the affair - is a real thing that has gone on since before the affair and certainly after[/b]. I feel like I’m seeing things that were always there for the first time, and they can’t be unseen. Anyone else BTDT on this dynamic? Did you personally heal? Did you stay? Leave? We have elementary/middle school kids so of course they are a huge factor in my decision process. [/quote] It might be possible to heal following an affair, but the bolded is unlikely to change and, in my view, impossible to live with.[/quote]
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