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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP. I am not going to tell my parents what they can or can’t do, but had a very direct conversation with both my parents and my sister today and told my sister she will be responsible for our mom’s death if she doesn’t find an alternate solution. I proposed to both that my parents go for a few weeks to try to help hire a nanny and get the kids used to that person. My mom’s doctor told her pausing chemo is not an option if she wants to be around much longer, and I think that’s what will get her to listen. She can get set up to do her chemo where my sister lives, but my mom is generally pretty debilitated for a few days after each infusion and recognizes that she can’t care for 3 and 6 year olds alone (my dad isn’t much help).

BIL’s parents are both deceased and he has a sibling across the country he is not close to.

To the poster who thinks I am angry at my mom and not my sister, no clue where you got that from but I completely understand my parents’ desire to help my sister as I know they would do for me if needed in a heartbeat.

I am just so angry they were selfish enough to put their kids through this and never once thought to plan ahead even though they were told it was guaranteed to happen.[/quote]

OP is there any chance you can go and help your sister?  Take FMLA leave and help hire the nanny?  Your mom cannot handle this.  She needs the chemo and clearly can't function well after it.  Plus little kids are teeming with germs and could infect her with something like cold/flu/covid and then she's in trouble.  I cannot imagine asking a 70 something year old with cancer during chemo to look after a 3 and 6 year old!!!  That's insane.

Or your BIL can take FMLA and he finds the nanny!!!  You mom needs to be completely out of this.  Good luck.[/quote]

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